As some of you might know, I am kind of obsessed with the show Sister Wives on TLC. Not because I condone or believe in their lifestyle, because I don’t, but because I think the way they DO live their lives is interesting. And I think it takes a lot of guts to air that on national television- but I am sure the paycheck makes THAT easier, right?
Anyways, in last week’s episode, they discussed their finances and how their family deals with money. Cody, along with 2 of his wives, work outside the home- which is where the income comes from. The other 2 wives stay home with the children, do the grocery shopping, cleaning, etc. Makes sense to me when you have that many children to tend to.
The part that struck me the most about this episode was that Robyn, Cody’s newest wife, was having a hard time with this arrangement. She didn’t feel that the other wives were seeing her value in the household, like she had something to prove. She said that she wanted the other wives to see what she was doing with their kids and acknowledge her basically. Because, they don’t have enough going on between that many kids, sharing a husband, etc.
It got me thinking though, about the value that I hold in our home. When we got married, I was still a full time student with one semester to go until graduation. We knew that I wouldn’t be working, and just decided from the beginning (after the advice from my mom!) to budget our money off of one income, so that we would know we could always make it work. This proved to be very, very helpful when I decided to stay home after having Brayden. It also made it very difficult at first, knowing that I wasn’t contributing financially. Brandon and I talked about it, and he made it very clear that I was contributing immensely. I was taking care of Brayden, the home, the food, the every day necessities- so that he didn’t have to. This made him more available to us at the end of the day when he is home, and it finally clicked with me.
Sure, I still have my days where I wonder just what on earth the value of changing poopy diapers and constantly cleaning up messes actually IS. But at the end of the day, I am doing what I do best- being a wife and a mother. And I wouldn’t change it for anything.